FFA-Tradition



One of my favorite movies. Need I say more? Okay, I will.

Here is a huge tradition that I'm happy to say has changed and thankfully does not happen in my house.



In case you can't read the article, here's the basic gist of what it says:

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE
Home Economics High School Text Book, 1954


Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.

Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Comments

Lindsey said…
That is really funny. I actually really like the concept of what it makes the home into and I can understand a few of the things helping. I try to do a few of them, in a much less pressured way, but do I really need to take him to the bed, serve him a cold drink and take off his shoes???

...fat chance...unless it is his birthday...maybe.
Jami said…
What are you saying, Amanda? You don't do this? What kind of a crappy wife are you? (I just got done polishing Ellis's shoes, myself.)
Jenni said…
In addition to changing the kids' clothes and washing their hands and faces, I make sure they brush their teeth....
Michelle said…
I like that his topics of conversation are more important than yours. Know your place, woman!
Uh, what's a "dustcloth"? I don't think I've ever used one. That's what mismatched socks are for.

And excuse me, but the fire his cleary his job. Always has been, always will be.

Man the fifty's were rough. Leave It To Beaver had it all wrong.
from Dicy said…
WOW! I really fall short! Although, I think doing all of those things would make Joey really uncomfortable. He would be like, "what on earth did you do with my wife"?
Anonymous said…
FAAAATTTT CHANCE!!!!! Oh it all comes out as soon as he enters the door. If he thinks that he has had a hard day well welcome to life at home with 5 kids,9 and under, which he helped to create. Let me see today I ran 5 miles, planted flowers, weeded the yard, mowed the lawn did some laundry, made breakfast and lunches and soon dinner planted and prepared some more garden area etc. Oh poor you, had a few too many meetings let me get you a drink and take your shoe off for you.
YAH RIGHT!
Don't get me wrong love my man! And he does work VERY VERY HARD, but come on a Wife and only to so much sometimes.

Joy
Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I posted the recipe you wanted for that chicken salad we had on Saturday night (which was great fun; we'll have to do it again.)

Here's the link to my food blog:

http://carillisa.blogspot.com/
Natalie said…
If those are requirements for a good wife, I am a bad, bad one..... thank heavens I am living now instead of then!! Though I probably still don't qualify as wife of the year however.....
Anonymous said…
I think I can speak for all men, when I calmly and gratefully say, YES!!! Finally, some words of wisdom and truth from our past! That is how it should be..., ;)

Due to the fiery words that could follow in response, I will withhold my name from publication!!